Practicing emotional venting is equivalent to expressing our emotions and benefiting from what they want to tell us and teach us about ourselves.
The technique of emotional ventilation Its purpose is to promote healthy expression and management of emotions. And it is that often phrases like “it is not that bad”, “You Can’t Feel This Way” or “you’re overdoing it” they creep into our heads and overpower the way we feel.
In turn, they seek to mark the “right” way of how to express our emotions. However, they are phrases that function as obstacles that cause us to think more in terms of the expectations of others and to detach ourselves from what is happening to us and what we are going through. How can we do better with this technique? Let’s see.
Emotions are at the heart of good physical and mental health because they give us information about our internal states and help us adapt to a given situation. In turn, they have a social component through which we can communicate and connect with other people.
They also motivate us to action as they guide our decisions. In this sense, to dismiss or avoid them would be to miss all their contributions.
What do you need to keep in mind to apply emotional venting?
Emotional venting is about opening up to our emotions, recognizing them, expressing them, “giving them light” and getting them out. This does not necessarily mean giving them to others in the first place, but it refers to sharing them with yourself, accepting them.
To perform this technique It is convenient to consider some keys which are presented below.
Remove preconceived notions about emotions
It may seem difficult not to associate happiness with a positive emotion and anger with a negative emotion. But if we are told that this association is learned, will we believe it? What happens is that emotions are part of that unread chapter or that we ignore during our development and learning.
For a long time, great importance was placed on the cognitive, but the emotional – emotional intelligence – was left aside. So, among other beliefs—many of them “gender-bound”— emotions that can send us out of control have a bad reputation and for this reason they became part of the “black list”.
But attention! Emotions provide information about how we feel, they are not inherently good or bad. They are based on their expression, their management and what they evoke in us.
Let’s look at an example; The well-channelled emotion of anger allows us to set boundaries in the face of an unfair situation, such as preventing someone from treating us badly. Meanwhile, a poorly channeled emotion of anger overwhelms and overwhelms us, as it would in the case of an insult to someone who mistreats us.
Another point about suspending what we think about emotions has to do with something we just mentioned; there are emotions that arise as more appropriate depending on whether we are talking about a man or a woman. Like, it’s classic “men don’t cry”which prevents them from expressing themselves and asking for help.
Don’t get confused. Emotions are universal and cultural factors have established that men do not cry and that women are more sensitive. However, holding onto this idea and suppressing our emotions implies paying a very high price in terms of our well-being.
Emotions need to be understood and worked through, not immediately pursued or avoided.
Now yes; break the emotion
We have the emotion “hot”; we are there feeling very angry because we have not achieved the grade we expected in an exam. what is this about How did I get to feel this way?
It is important to be able to recognize what factors may be present in this situation in order to understand why this emotion is triggered. Of course, in the same situation, two people would react differently, just because they interpret and experience this fact differently.
Exercises and techniques for applying emotional ventilation in practice
There are many ways to put emotional venting into practice. Here’s a few examples.
Start by giving it a name
Anger, rage, anger, jealousy, envy, joy, fear… the emotion as it is without trying to cover it up or “prettify” it. We feel it and live it this way; it won’t make us a better or worse person.
Express them orally or in writing
This will depend on the style and preferred mode of the face. For example, there are those who prefer to write or draw them, while others are better at expressing them in words.
Around writing we can “deposit” emotions in a fasten it, as a way to remove them, to get away from them and the way they surround us; «I feel bad because my friend, today I want to cry because I had a bad day, because I was happy when… ».
Assess the situation
Another exercise that is key can be to assess a particular situation in order to integrate thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
We can do it at the end of the day or at the end of an activity. How did I feel doing this? What can be improved? Trigger questions that allow us to connect with emotions and achieve emotional ventilation.
do it for yourself
As mentioned before, emotional venting is a way of thinking and feeling. Many times we are able to empathize with the emotions of others, but we do not apply the same rule to ourselves.
We judge ourselves for being weak, stupid, or too sensitive about our feelings in certain circumstances. Being able to relate to emotions is a matter of self-knowledge, boundaries, acceptance and self-respect. It gives us the space we deserve so we can start from there and grow.
This “emotional pot” that we try to cover – sooner or later – reaches the boiling point and psychosomatic diseases, stress, anxiety, sleep disorders appear. Therefore, “befriending” our emotions is more than a choice, it is related to health.
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