Are you bored of the stability and routine as a couple?

Does it happen to you that in relationships routine and stability bore you? You may feel that they are no longer doing something different or that there are no surprises. Maybe you’re afraid of losing yourself and would like to get out, engage in new activities, and enjoy your space. “Hold” the situation for a while without expressing how it makes you feel until you can’t take it anymore, what appears to you as a monotonous relationship is not enough and you prefer to finish it.

As you enjoy your renewed singleness, you dream of finding someone original, different and always surprising you. finally you find the man of your dreamshe makes you laugh, they go on adventures together, and he seems like a completely offbeat guy.

Everything should be fine, but for some reason this person isn’t engaging at the level you want. He is a free being and somehow you cannot catch him. Maybe he’s tied up, but he lets you know that he wants his space, that he needs to hang out with his friends.




The balance of energies in the couple begins with the self-knowledge of each one. Photo: Shutterstock illustration

At this moment, the situation worries you and part of you can’t accept it. Now you long for stability, routine and commitment. However, you have chosen a free soul who needs his space and you feel that they do not provide you with enough solidity and security, do not reach the level of intimacy that you would like. Time to see how Uranus plays out in your natal chart.

What does Uranus mean in a birth chart?

If it has happened to you, it seems that the planet Uranus presents you with a dilemma in your birth chart. Do you see the pattern? First you yearn to share your life with someone, then you find that person who dazzles you, months later you get bored of the routine that a stable relationship entails, so you leave and go back to square one.

One part of us longs for intimacy and stability with the other, while the other defends freedom, originality, and a sense of independence. Uranus represents these conflicting desires which manifest in the astrological charts – which depend on the time and date of birth – and which we experience as conflict in our lives.

We get blindsided by someone and then get disillusioned and yearn for singleness.  Photo: Shutterstock illustration


We get blindsided by someone and then get disillusioned and yearn for singleness. Photo: Shutterstock illustration

We constantly live in this struggle, which we manifest in many ways: boycotting our relationships when they’re stable, staying stuck in a routine relationship that bores us without doing anything to change the dynamic, or simply making excuses that we’re happier no commitment.

And what does Uranus want? Just be authentic and honest with yourself. east transpersonal planet invites us to establish deep relationships without losing ourselves or neglecting our precious individuality. This is what you are looking for and the work you offer us.

The long road of personal work: identify our impulses

We can use astrology as a basis and understand that many of the conflicts which are presented to us in our astrological charts, we experience them as external conflicts. We think the other is taking away my freedomThe other one doesn’t give me stability.

In reality, these are internal and personal conflicts. First, we must recognize that it has nothing to do with the other person, that they are only responsible for the reflection our own dilemma to deal with it.

The dilemma has nothing to do with the other person, but with ourselves.  Photo: Shutterstock illustration


The dilemma has nothing to do with the other person, but with ourselves. Photo: Shutterstock illustration

We harbor both needs within us: intimacy versus freedom. It’s important to determine if this longing for intimacy terrifies us, because our immediate reaction will be that we won’t like another person trying to get close to us.

If on the contrary, we can’t admit that we need more space and freedom in our relationships As a couple, we will not be satisfied when the other demands their freedom and independence.

The key is to accept this both internal impulses are legitimate. This reflection will make it easier for us to accept that others may be going through the same conflict.

Both aspects live within us and we must identify them.  Photo: Shutterstock illustration


Both aspects live within us and we must identify them. Photo: Shutterstock illustration

If we embrace within ourselves the deep desire for connection with the other and, in turn, the need for freedom and originality, we will build a truer connection with ourselves and the world. Until we accept this, life will continue to show us the dilemma.

If I’m in a relationship, I have to dare to ask for space for me or promoting cases to get out of the rut. Both desires, autonomy and stability, are legitimate. Likewise, we must assume that the other is also entitled to the same.

In general, in people who have Uranus in their birth chart — generating these fears of stability and intimacy — something specific may have happened to them in their childhood: when they felt emotional security or stability, it suddenly disappeared, leaving them hurt. A) Yes, in the unconscious remained the feeling that when there is emotional security or stability in relationships, there is a great risk that they will suddenly disappear.

Is for wound unconsciouswe do not realize it and justify our actions by defending our independence or denying the other’s right to theirs.

Whenever there is emotional security in a relationship, we are gripped with fear that it will suddenly disappear.  Photo: Shutterstock illustration.


Whenever there is emotional security in a relationship, we are gripped with fear that it will suddenly disappear. Photo: Shutterstock illustration.

Our present or future partner is not our mother or father. It’s also not the previous pair we had. All this has already happened and does not need to happen again. But if we are unable to identify and harmonize the antagonistic needs that live within us we will continue to be locked in the dilemma and unable to find balance on the path to personal evolution.

By Pablo Flores Laymuns, Civil Engineer, Psychological Astrologer, Floral and Gestalt Therapist. Author of Healing Relationships, a book on psychological astrology and creator of the astrotherapeutic school. On Instagram, @pablofloresastrologo.

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